See when a woman is really unterested in you

It’s almost unbearable for a man to be rejected by a woman. It hurts not only his feelings, but more his self-esteem and male’s ego. They try to pick up some giveaway clues to find out whether she is really hooked. But very often they are mislead by these clues and feel as if duped.

The reason for such misunderstanding lies in the fact, that females very often do not understand themselves. No wonder that you fail to make a head or tail of the whole situation! Still, there are some signs-signals by means of which you can see that she is really interested in you.

She “accidentally” occurs on your way several types during the day, even if you live in different parts of the city. You meet her in the street, in the café or nearest club. By behaving in such a way, woman pushes you to another step, she signals, that she likes you, but it’s you who have to do the next step. And if you read the signal correctly, you are not a long way from your dream!

Body language is the best signal. Even paying no attention to the movements, she can easily give all her intensions out, using some vivid gestures: she points in your direction with her leg, foot or shoulders, she leans toward you while talking, she plays with or tosses her hair, she toys with a piece of jewelry (like an earring) or strokes the stem of her glass, she keeps her eyes locked on you while she talks or drinks, she mirrors your body movements, she smiles when you check her out. These are really giveaway clues, which show that she is interested in you.

She tends to make a fuss out of your presence. Especially if you fail to read her signals, she will try to attract your attention by all means. Besides, if you notice that she is jealous to other women you are talking to, you may be 100% sure that she wants you to be more than just a friend.

She is never in a hurry. If the woman finds you interested, she is sure to give you her phone number, e-mail address and will gladly accept your invitation to go out. Even if she is really busy that very day, she is likely to say, “Well, I really can’t this Sunday, but next weak will be great”. And on the contrary, if you hear some phrases like "I'm really busy right now," or "Let me check my schedule," sorry, you have no chances! She is telling you Good Bye!

"The Probe" is the female tool used for evaluating a man's financial resources. It looks like a series of casual questions, but behind it a ruthless calculator counts everything. When a woman first meets a man that she is interested in, she will quiz him on his job, where he lives and what kind of car he has, all within a natural conversation. If you give the "right" answers, then the flirting signals will follow; but if not – this is not your chance!

These are the most obvious giveaway clues picking up which you get be sure that the girl of your dreams is really interested in you. Mind, that if the case is really that serious, you’ll notice more than one such signal, perhaps, your future partner is simply open-hearted and doesn’t mean any romance. So keep your eyes peeled and don’t hurry with your conclusions!

Some things You should never tell Her

Relationships are usually a really hard work. If you relax and forget about it, you get lots of problems, misunderstanding and quarrels. You try to be always honest and call a spade a spade? Great, but not always wise! There are some things you should never tell your girlfriend if you don’t want to get her monkey up or even worse – break and spoil everything good you had.

Never tell her that she is fat or that she’s put on weight!
Even if it is really so, you’d better not dare to tell her about. It goes without saying that women are very much concerned about their weight, and if she’s put on some weight, she will notice it even without your comments. But if say something of the kind, she may think that you don’t find her attractive and sexy any longer. And this, in its own turn, may cause some serious problems in your relations!

Don’t tell her that your mom would have done this better!
Especially, if she tried to do her best, but failed! If you do say things like that from time to time, you are a mommy’s son and your relations are doomed to failure. Don’t compare her with her mom and the way your mother does the things. Your girlfriend will get offended and next time if not leaves you, but won’t try to do something pleasant for you! You love her for what and who she is, that’s why there’s no need to compare her with anybody else, even if it is your mom!

Don’t tell her about your ex!
Would you like to be always compared with some obscure figure from your partner’s past? Perhaps, not. Neither wants she! Especially, if it touches some intimate spheres of your life like sex. If you tell your girlfriend what a great sex you had with your ex, she will feel defective and won’t be able to relax concentrating on the process itself and her own desire to give you pleasure!

Don’t ask her to relax when she is upset or angry!
In general be careful with this word! Even if you don’t mean anything bad, your girlfriend is likely to get offended whenever asked to relax. It may seem to her that you don’t take her seriously and say these words in order to get rid of her! Consider what and in what situation you say! One careless word may cause you hours of showdown.

Don’t tell her that you don’t like her friends!
Of course, nobody forces you to like her friends. But you shouldn’t say anything bad about them either. She knows them for quite a lot period of time and is likely to reasons for that, besides, you have also some friends she doesn’t like either.
On the other extreme, don’t tell her that you like her friend! Even if you really like some of her friends, keep it a secret and don't tell your actual partner about it. Otherwise she may get hurt and angry and will stop trusting you!

Mind, that if you don’t tell all these things to your girlfriend, it doesn’t mean, that you are not honest. It means that you really care about her and don’t want to cause unnecessary worries and troubles in her life!

Going on a blind date: dare it or not?

I believe that almost everyone at least once on his life experienced the thrilling feeling of going on a blind date. On the one hand, you are very excited because you don’t know what awaits you and on the other – may lose all your hope after having seen our date.

For you not to go the limit, some rules of blind dating.

1. Do not be either too optimistic or too pessimistic. In general, don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. If the date turns out to be the woman of your dreams, you are a lucky chap and you’ll be really surprised. If somehow your date is not quite the one you expected, do not get upset at once, talk to her, spend the whole evening, and only then, if see that really nothing will come out of this, say “Good bye”. Do not put off this talk, otherwise it may drag on for months if not more. Be frank. Woman would rather prefer your lie to your pretence in relations.

2. Be attentive and caring. Women as well as men go to blind dates with rather low expectations, thus, it’s up to you to turn the situation into something sincere and intimate. Try not to be too nervous and make her feel at ease.

3. Do not start telling her about your problems! Present yourself as a mysterious book she’ll never get tired to read. If she knows that you live with…, work at…, sleep with… etc, she won’t need another date – she knows you already but hardly likes…

4. Keep in mind that though a blind date, but still it is the first date, so try not to spoil anything. Remember my pieces of advice?
Be yourself, be at ease, feel comfortable and don’t allow yourself too much. You need to control the situation and see, where you can say and where you can also touch…

Is different behavior of males and females programmed in our brains?

What is it that makes us so different? What can’t we find common ground and at the same time feel terrible when apart? Can psychology explain us everything?

In differentiating between men and women, in finding out roots of this difference, we should go back to the times of primitive society and mammoths. Man was always considered the head of the family (= herd) and his main function was to bring food and give good posterity. He was never at home; he spent nights and days hunting mammoths in order to maintain his family. And it was not an easy task. Whenever he came back home he tried to fecundate as many females as possible and with the feeling of a well done job came back to hunting!

Let’s compare the situation. If today men are accused of trying to have as many woman as possible, it is not their actual fault, these are our grand-grand-grand…fathers who are to blame. As there are some useless organs-rudiments in our body, in the same way we cannot get rid completely of that call of the wild. We try to be loyal to one woman, want to create a family, but deep in the soul we need time to “hunt a mammoth” and cannot help looking at other women. Those who are not that strong, give up, letting “the call of the wild” prevail and want to know other women as well.

Women on the other hand were always considered to be keepers of the hearth and their main function was always giving birth and taking care of their children. Besides, all the work about the house was theirs as well. That’s why our women are much stronger emotionally, can resist to hardships and do several things at a time. And men, who had to concentrate on a huge mammoth to stay alive, could do only one thing. Isn’t it the same today???

These are those things we cannot change. As they say, if you can’t beat them, join them! So let’s try to turn these peculiarities to our good account. It’s easier to know how to behave if you possess the information and can choose this or that line of behavior.

Make friends with a Condom!

There exists a perpetuated stereotype that condoms are always in the way of our satisfaction and do not bring anything good but for inconvenience and lack of eroticism. It’s just the time we got rid of it!

The choice of condoms at the market is very rich and they can not only prevent us and our partner from pregnancy, transmission of HIV, genital warts, herpes, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, but also add new experience to our sexual life! Men claim that sex with a condom is not at all sex, ‘cause they cannot feel anything! You are rather poor lovers, I’d say, and didn’t even try to choose a condom to your heart’s (oops, sorry, penis’) content! Crown Skinless is rather popular now as a very thin condom you do not almost feel. Try it and only then will probably (!) have something to object!

Besides, condoms may become a good solution for those women who experience vaginal dryness and loss of natural lubrication. The feeling of dryness can be rather unpleasant and spoil the whole thing, but if you use a good quality lubricant such as Liquid Silk or a condom Durex Elite, you kill two birds with one stone!

Some condoms are specially created to bring both partners more satisfaction – try ribbed or dotted condoms: they are likely to provide your partner with additional stimulation; or use Durex Performa: these will enable you last longer and your partner – reach orgasm!

Are to big or too small? Do not say that you failed to buy the right condom! It’s just a lame excuse! Give preference to Durex Close Fit if you're small but perfectly formed. Big boys should try Trojan Magnum XL, the biggest condom available in the UK at the moment!

You say that you are allergic to latex? Choose latex free condoms for your sensitive body!

Can create some other objections? I doubt it! It’s up to you which kind of contraception you choose, but do not be too biased as far as the condoms are concerned. And if you say that only condoms are guilty in all your sexual misunderstanding with your partner, I’d doubt your sexual skills rather, than bad condoms!

What do we talk about when we talk about love?

Love, relations, sex, partnership – these are all things we cannot do without. Sometimes we need only sex, but very soon sex without feelings loses its attractiveness and we feel that we need something deeper than only sex; we need some warmth, care, tenderness, eventually we need someone to take care of!

I feel quite at a loss, when I hear some people saying that love doesn’t exist, that it is all down to lust and chemical reactions of our body. We only need sex to be fit and feel like real males-conquerors! Do we???

Lust is considered to be one of deadly things and it is not worth connecting everything with our biological necessity of coupling. Lust does influence our sexual behavior, but I’d rather call it “desire”, “sexual attraction” or simply but correctly “sexuality”.

Bare sex doesn’t distinguish us from animals. Animals in their turn do not couple with anybody either! But we very often do! Perhaps, someone will find this parallel offensive, but I only write what I consider to be reality and our every day experience.

I do not mean to offend anybody, but favor that point of view, that those males who are having sex nights and days and regard every female as the next object of their sexual aggression, are rather unhappy inside and try to hide that under the guise of a constant lover. An acquaintance of mine keeps to this strategy in life and considers that all women want him. In his turn he is ready to satisfy them (health permitting!) and claims to be happy! But I can hardly believe!

Roots of such behavior go back to the past and are caused by some past actions or events. This my acquaintance always lacked women’s attention and was never popular with them. Now he’s trying to prove everybody and himself that he is not a complete failure, that women are interested in him and want to have sex with him! But I am convinced that deep in his soul he’s unhappy and after he gets tired of this constant process of self-assertion, the only feeling he’s likely to have is bitterness and vacuousness.

Very often under the outer bravado a very touchy soul is hidden. The desire to feel like a peacock and mark your territory will soon pass into the background as soon as you find a deeper aim of your life. Isn’t it food for thought?

Make her want you, kiss her…

What can be the first step to sex? Kiss… But of course, if you know how to do it correctly! Women consider kiss an important and integral part of successful relations and as the next step to something more serious. Do it in appropriate time, be tender, passionate and attentive.

Your first kiss should be as tender and as sweet as possible! Don’t try to put all her clothes off or ram your tongue down her throat! Women don’t like such kisses and such persistence. Look into her eyes, touch her face, manage to catch that very moment and kiss… She is sure to be overwhelmed by your charm, care and desire to give her pleasure!

If your kiss was ok, don’t stop where you are, ‘cause monotony kills passion and ruins feelings. Intrigue her, be innovative and develop your seductive art of kissing. Experiment with different kisses to keep the fire. Caress her with your hands in different sexy ways. Vary kissing her slowly, fast, passionately, sensually and playfully. Everyone likes to kiss and be kissed in a different way. But women are unlikely to be satisfied with lots of saliva and vulgarism. When you already know the desires of your partner, you may be more innovative and choose various kisses. Mind, that kiss is a vivid representation of our passion, care and desire! Cover her lips with yours, feel her gentle response, move your tongue exploring the realms of her excitative mouth. Feel the beating of her heart, press her body to yours, but don’t over-react. Stop at the most exciting moment; make her die with desire, make your first sex awaited, cherished and great! She wants you already – you’ve done your best and can be 100% sure of your man’s charm!

French kiss, Nip kiss, Suck kiss – your Art of seduction has no measures! Vanish into your kiss, give and get satisfaction, follow your heart and She will never resist!

How not to lay it thick after the first date

Your first date was rather successful, you both enjoyed the evening, spent wonderful time and… she gave you her phone number! Don’t force the events and don’t over-react, otherwise everything may be useless. Don’t hurry up to phone her, even if you have this burning desire! She expects this and you’ll do nothing unusual if call her next day, or even worse, the same evening! She may think that you are too obtrusive and won’t like to continue these relations. And that’s not we are fighting for, is it? The best strategy is to wait a day or two – such your line of behavior is sure to make her think of you. And that’s the first plus for our benefit!

Another taboo: don’t start chatting for hours telling about all the news in your life. Be precise and know exactly with what reason you are calling her. You don’t know this woman well enough and can easily spoil the whole positive impression of yourself if you begin to speak about those things she’d never discuss with a stranger (yes, I mean it! Though rather handsome, but still a stranger!). Speak on the most general topics, but on the other hand, avoid being too predictable. The best variant is to ask how she’s doing, say that you’d like to see her and invite for the second date. If she agrees, that’s another plus, if not, don’t lose your heart. Say, that you are really sorry and phone her back in a couple of days. Women like when men do their best in order to win their favor!

How to behave during your next dates and foresee her desires? How to see that she is “ready” for the next stage? There are no universal tips of advice here. You should be a good psychologist, analyse the situation and turn it into a suitable for you angle. Women as well as men do need sex, but they are not always ready to make the first step and show it. But it is not a universal truth either, ‘cause for some women one date is enough to jump into your bed, and with the others it will take more time and effort and not every man can agree to wait so long. But mind, that if you still decide to wait, you can be rewarded and get unknown before that satisfaction. Your own line of behavior is also very important here. You should be sometimes patient, sometimes insistent, and sometimes indifferent. See to it that you keep to your strategy and any woman is sure to give up in the end. Simply decide for yourself, whether the game is worth the candle!