Going on a blind date: dare it or not?

I believe that almost everyone at least once on his life experienced the thrilling feeling of going on a blind date. On the one hand, you are very excited because you don’t know what awaits you and on the other – may lose all your hope after having seen our date.

For you not to go the limit, some rules of blind dating.

1. Do not be either too optimistic or too pessimistic. In general, don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. If the date turns out to be the woman of your dreams, you are a lucky chap and you’ll be really surprised. If somehow your date is not quite the one you expected, do not get upset at once, talk to her, spend the whole evening, and only then, if see that really nothing will come out of this, say “Good bye”. Do not put off this talk, otherwise it may drag on for months if not more. Be frank. Woman would rather prefer your lie to your pretence in relations.

2. Be attentive and caring. Women as well as men go to blind dates with rather low expectations, thus, it’s up to you to turn the situation into something sincere and intimate. Try not to be too nervous and make her feel at ease.

3. Do not start telling her about your problems! Present yourself as a mysterious book she’ll never get tired to read. If she knows that you live with…, work at…, sleep with… etc, she won’t need another date – she knows you already but hardly likes…

4. Keep in mind that though a blind date, but still it is the first date, so try not to spoil anything. Remember my pieces of advice?
Be yourself, be at ease, feel comfortable and don’t allow yourself too much. You need to control the situation and see, where you can say and where you can also touch…

Pluses and minuses of online dating

Today more and more people give preference to online dating. On one end of the spectrum, it’s really convenient, ‘cause you can easily choose the person you are interested in taking into account all necessary parameters like weight, height, zodiacal sign, religion, attitude to having children etc. You just choose these parameters and then find one or several potential dates. More than that while trying to find somebody through online web sites you can (and you should!) express yourself in full! Be honest and write not only about your virtues but also about your drawbacks. There are no ideal people and every female is well aware of this fact, sometimes even more than males. Don’t try to present yourself as Arnold Schwarzenegger being in reality closer to Jim Carrey. Not everybody likes muscles – somebody prefers good sense of humor and ability to be life and soul of the party. But what all women are sure to despise is lie. It is lie that they’ll never forget. If you start your relations (even online) from lie, they are doomed to failure from the very start.

There’s still a potential danger of being cheated by other people who at first site meet all your demands, but turn out to be maniacs, unbalanced people or people with some deviations in their psyche. Learn your date before giving her your e-mail address or some other details of your personal life. There’s another pitfall here. With the increase of online dating sites, there increased the number of swindles who make men get interested in them, tell tearful stories about sick parents, children or serious failure in life…They do their best to move you to pity, and you are ready to send them a large sum of money for “improving their position in life”. Do not let anybody trample upon you! And if you help somebody, be sure on what she (or anybody else) is going to spend your money. Otherwise you are risking to hear anything not only about “improved position in life” but also about the person who needed this improvement so badly!

These are the most important things you should mind while giving preference to online dating. If it so popular, why not trying your hand at it? There’s a number of examples when people got acquainted online, communicated, met and developed their relations. Online dating is also an excellent means of finding new friends and acquaintances. Be on your guard and control the situation unless you know the person well enough and can rely on her.