Love, relations, sex, partnership – these are all things we cannot do without. Sometimes we need only sex, but very soon sex without feelings loses its attractiveness and we feel that we need something deeper than only sex; we need some warmth, care, tenderness, eventually we need someone to take care of!
I feel quite at a loss, when I hear some people saying that love doesn’t exist, that it is all down to lust and chemical reactions of our body. We only need sex to be fit and feel like real males-conquerors! Do we???
Lust is considered to be one of deadly things and it is not worth connecting everything with our biological necessity of coupling. Lust does influence our sexual behavior, but I’d rather call it “desire”, “sexual attraction” or simply but correctly “sexuality”.
Bare sex doesn’t distinguish us from animals. Animals in their turn do not couple with anybody either! But we very often do! Perhaps, someone will find this parallel offensive, but I only write what I consider to be reality and our every day experience.
I do not mean to offend anybody, but favor that point of view, that those males who are having sex nights and days and regard every female as the next object of their sexual aggression, are rather unhappy inside and try to hide that under the guise of a constant lover. An acquaintance of mine keeps to this strategy in life and considers that all women want him. In his turn he is ready to satisfy them (health permitting!) and claims to be happy! But I can hardly believe!
Roots of such behavior go back to the past and are caused by some past actions or events. This my acquaintance always lacked women’s attention and was never popular with them. Now he’s trying to prove everybody and himself that he is not a complete failure, that women are interested in him and want to have sex with him! But I am convinced that deep in his soul he’s unhappy and after he gets tired of this constant process of self-assertion, the only feeling he’s likely to have is bitterness and vacuousness.
Very often under the outer bravado a very touchy soul is hidden. The desire to feel like a peacock and mark your territory will soon pass into the background as soon as you find a deeper aim of your life. Isn’t it food for thought?
I feel quite at a loss, when I hear some people saying that love doesn’t exist, that it is all down to lust and chemical reactions of our body. We only need sex to be fit and feel like real males-conquerors! Do we???
Lust is considered to be one of deadly things and it is not worth connecting everything with our biological necessity of coupling. Lust does influence our sexual behavior, but I’d rather call it “desire”, “sexual attraction” or simply but correctly “sexuality”.
Bare sex doesn’t distinguish us from animals. Animals in their turn do not couple with anybody either! But we very often do! Perhaps, someone will find this parallel offensive, but I only write what I consider to be reality and our every day experience.
I do not mean to offend anybody, but favor that point of view, that those males who are having sex nights and days and regard every female as the next object of their sexual aggression, are rather unhappy inside and try to hide that under the guise of a constant lover. An acquaintance of mine keeps to this strategy in life and considers that all women want him. In his turn he is ready to satisfy them (health permitting!) and claims to be happy! But I can hardly believe!
Roots of such behavior go back to the past and are caused by some past actions or events. This my acquaintance always lacked women’s attention and was never popular with them. Now he’s trying to prove everybody and himself that he is not a complete failure, that women are interested in him and want to have sex with him! But I am convinced that deep in his soul he’s unhappy and after he gets tired of this constant process of self-assertion, the only feeling he’s likely to have is bitterness and vacuousness.
Very often under the outer bravado a very touchy soul is hidden. The desire to feel like a peacock and mark your territory will soon pass into the background as soon as you find a deeper aim of your life. Isn’t it food for thought?
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