Going on a blind date: dare it or not?

I believe that almost everyone at least once on his life experienced the thrilling feeling of going on a blind date. On the one hand, you are very excited because you don’t know what awaits you and on the other – may lose all your hope after having seen our date.

For you not to go the limit, some rules of blind dating.

1. Do not be either too optimistic or too pessimistic. In general, don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. If the date turns out to be the woman of your dreams, you are a lucky chap and you’ll be really surprised. If somehow your date is not quite the one you expected, do not get upset at once, talk to her, spend the whole evening, and only then, if see that really nothing will come out of this, say “Good bye”. Do not put off this talk, otherwise it may drag on for months if not more. Be frank. Woman would rather prefer your lie to your pretence in relations.

2. Be attentive and caring. Women as well as men go to blind dates with rather low expectations, thus, it’s up to you to turn the situation into something sincere and intimate. Try not to be too nervous and make her feel at ease.

3. Do not start telling her about your problems! Present yourself as a mysterious book she’ll never get tired to read. If she knows that you live with…, work at…, sleep with… etc, she won’t need another date – she knows you already but hardly likes…

4. Keep in mind that though a blind date, but still it is the first date, so try not to spoil anything. Remember my pieces of advice?
Be yourself, be at ease, feel comfortable and don’t allow yourself too much. You need to control the situation and see, where you can say and where you can also touch…

Is different behavior of males and females programmed in our brains?

What is it that makes us so different? What can’t we find common ground and at the same time feel terrible when apart? Can psychology explain us everything?

In differentiating between men and women, in finding out roots of this difference, we should go back to the times of primitive society and mammoths. Man was always considered the head of the family (= herd) and his main function was to bring food and give good posterity. He was never at home; he spent nights and days hunting mammoths in order to maintain his family. And it was not an easy task. Whenever he came back home he tried to fecundate as many females as possible and with the feeling of a well done job came back to hunting!

Let’s compare the situation. If today men are accused of trying to have as many woman as possible, it is not their actual fault, these are our grand-grand-grand…fathers who are to blame. As there are some useless organs-rudiments in our body, in the same way we cannot get rid completely of that call of the wild. We try to be loyal to one woman, want to create a family, but deep in the soul we need time to “hunt a mammoth” and cannot help looking at other women. Those who are not that strong, give up, letting “the call of the wild” prevail and want to know other women as well.

Women on the other hand were always considered to be keepers of the hearth and their main function was always giving birth and taking care of their children. Besides, all the work about the house was theirs as well. That’s why our women are much stronger emotionally, can resist to hardships and do several things at a time. And men, who had to concentrate on a huge mammoth to stay alive, could do only one thing. Isn’t it the same today???

These are those things we cannot change. As they say, if you can’t beat them, join them! So let’s try to turn these peculiarities to our good account. It’s easier to know how to behave if you possess the information and can choose this or that line of behavior.

Make friends with a Condom!

There exists a perpetuated stereotype that condoms are always in the way of our satisfaction and do not bring anything good but for inconvenience and lack of eroticism. It’s just the time we got rid of it!

The choice of condoms at the market is very rich and they can not only prevent us and our partner from pregnancy, transmission of HIV, genital warts, herpes, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, but also add new experience to our sexual life! Men claim that sex with a condom is not at all sex, ‘cause they cannot feel anything! You are rather poor lovers, I’d say, and didn’t even try to choose a condom to your heart’s (oops, sorry, penis’) content! Crown Skinless is rather popular now as a very thin condom you do not almost feel. Try it and only then will probably (!) have something to object!

Besides, condoms may become a good solution for those women who experience vaginal dryness and loss of natural lubrication. The feeling of dryness can be rather unpleasant and spoil the whole thing, but if you use a good quality lubricant such as Liquid Silk or a condom Durex Elite, you kill two birds with one stone!

Some condoms are specially created to bring both partners more satisfaction – try ribbed or dotted condoms: they are likely to provide your partner with additional stimulation; or use Durex Performa: these will enable you last longer and your partner – reach orgasm!

Are to big or too small? Do not say that you failed to buy the right condom! It’s just a lame excuse! Give preference to Durex Close Fit if you're small but perfectly formed. Big boys should try Trojan Magnum XL, the biggest condom available in the UK at the moment!

You say that you are allergic to latex? Choose latex free condoms for your sensitive body!

Can create some other objections? I doubt it! It’s up to you which kind of contraception you choose, but do not be too biased as far as the condoms are concerned. And if you say that only condoms are guilty in all your sexual misunderstanding with your partner, I’d doubt your sexual skills rather, than bad condoms!

What do we talk about when we talk about love?

Love, relations, sex, partnership – these are all things we cannot do without. Sometimes we need only sex, but very soon sex without feelings loses its attractiveness and we feel that we need something deeper than only sex; we need some warmth, care, tenderness, eventually we need someone to take care of!

I feel quite at a loss, when I hear some people saying that love doesn’t exist, that it is all down to lust and chemical reactions of our body. We only need sex to be fit and feel like real males-conquerors! Do we???

Lust is considered to be one of deadly things and it is not worth connecting everything with our biological necessity of coupling. Lust does influence our sexual behavior, but I’d rather call it “desire”, “sexual attraction” or simply but correctly “sexuality”.

Bare sex doesn’t distinguish us from animals. Animals in their turn do not couple with anybody either! But we very often do! Perhaps, someone will find this parallel offensive, but I only write what I consider to be reality and our every day experience.

I do not mean to offend anybody, but favor that point of view, that those males who are having sex nights and days and regard every female as the next object of their sexual aggression, are rather unhappy inside and try to hide that under the guise of a constant lover. An acquaintance of mine keeps to this strategy in life and considers that all women want him. In his turn he is ready to satisfy them (health permitting!) and claims to be happy! But I can hardly believe!

Roots of such behavior go back to the past and are caused by some past actions or events. This my acquaintance always lacked women’s attention and was never popular with them. Now he’s trying to prove everybody and himself that he is not a complete failure, that women are interested in him and want to have sex with him! But I am convinced that deep in his soul he’s unhappy and after he gets tired of this constant process of self-assertion, the only feeling he’s likely to have is bitterness and vacuousness.

Very often under the outer bravado a very touchy soul is hidden. The desire to feel like a peacock and mark your territory will soon pass into the background as soon as you find a deeper aim of your life. Isn’t it food for thought?

Make her want you, kiss her…

What can be the first step to sex? Kiss… But of course, if you know how to do it correctly! Women consider kiss an important and integral part of successful relations and as the next step to something more serious. Do it in appropriate time, be tender, passionate and attentive.

Your first kiss should be as tender and as sweet as possible! Don’t try to put all her clothes off or ram your tongue down her throat! Women don’t like such kisses and such persistence. Look into her eyes, touch her face, manage to catch that very moment and kiss… She is sure to be overwhelmed by your charm, care and desire to give her pleasure!

If your kiss was ok, don’t stop where you are, ‘cause monotony kills passion and ruins feelings. Intrigue her, be innovative and develop your seductive art of kissing. Experiment with different kisses to keep the fire. Caress her with your hands in different sexy ways. Vary kissing her slowly, fast, passionately, sensually and playfully. Everyone likes to kiss and be kissed in a different way. But women are unlikely to be satisfied with lots of saliva and vulgarism. When you already know the desires of your partner, you may be more innovative and choose various kisses. Mind, that kiss is a vivid representation of our passion, care and desire! Cover her lips with yours, feel her gentle response, move your tongue exploring the realms of her excitative mouth. Feel the beating of her heart, press her body to yours, but don’t over-react. Stop at the most exciting moment; make her die with desire, make your first sex awaited, cherished and great! She wants you already – you’ve done your best and can be 100% sure of your man’s charm!

French kiss, Nip kiss, Suck kiss – your Art of seduction has no measures! Vanish into your kiss, give and get satisfaction, follow your heart and She will never resist!

How not to lay it thick after the first date

Your first date was rather successful, you both enjoyed the evening, spent wonderful time and… she gave you her phone number! Don’t force the events and don’t over-react, otherwise everything may be useless. Don’t hurry up to phone her, even if you have this burning desire! She expects this and you’ll do nothing unusual if call her next day, or even worse, the same evening! She may think that you are too obtrusive and won’t like to continue these relations. And that’s not we are fighting for, is it? The best strategy is to wait a day or two – such your line of behavior is sure to make her think of you. And that’s the first plus for our benefit!

Another taboo: don’t start chatting for hours telling about all the news in your life. Be precise and know exactly with what reason you are calling her. You don’t know this woman well enough and can easily spoil the whole positive impression of yourself if you begin to speak about those things she’d never discuss with a stranger (yes, I mean it! Though rather handsome, but still a stranger!). Speak on the most general topics, but on the other hand, avoid being too predictable. The best variant is to ask how she’s doing, say that you’d like to see her and invite for the second date. If she agrees, that’s another plus, if not, don’t lose your heart. Say, that you are really sorry and phone her back in a couple of days. Women like when men do their best in order to win their favor!

How to behave during your next dates and foresee her desires? How to see that she is “ready” for the next stage? There are no universal tips of advice here. You should be a good psychologist, analyse the situation and turn it into a suitable for you angle. Women as well as men do need sex, but they are not always ready to make the first step and show it. But it is not a universal truth either, ‘cause for some women one date is enough to jump into your bed, and with the others it will take more time and effort and not every man can agree to wait so long. But mind, that if you still decide to wait, you can be rewarded and get unknown before that satisfaction. Your own line of behavior is also very important here. You should be sometimes patient, sometimes insistent, and sometimes indifferent. See to it that you keep to your strategy and any woman is sure to give up in the end. Simply decide for yourself, whether the game is worth the candle!

How not to flop during the date with a woman

Before the date (especially, if it is the first one) males try to build a kind of a strategy upon which they act and which (in case of success, of course) finishes in bed. But if something goes wrong, we are likely to feel awkward, at a loss and our bravado disappears. Mind, that women are more sensible in this matter and feel everything we have only thought about. Women are usually far from being naïve, that is to say were not born yesterday and know perfectly well what your major intention is! So be careful, unless you are not afraid of spoiling everything from the very start.

Infect her with your positive attitude and optimism! Smile and show that you really enjoy her company. If you start complaining, consider your relation to be over. You may get her compassion, but nothing more! Make her laugh, make her be interested in your personality come wind, come weather.

Don’t be afraid to be rejected and if it happens, don’t concentrate on this small failure – consider it as the next step on the way to your victory and never give up. Let’s say, you asked for her telephone number and she refused. One can say, “Oh, ok, it was nice talking to you” and leave at once. But you not only have to stay, but you shouldn’t show any bitterness or disappointment, pretend you simply don’t care whether you get this number or not, continue your talk as if nothing had happened and, believe me, you are sure to get the number in the end!!!

Another example: you tried to kiss her, but she didn’t let you. The most common reactions of a man are, “Sorry, I didn’t mean anything of the kind” or sitting in silence creating awkward situation. The phrase of this kind won’t do, because you start lying (it is just exactly what you mean!) and sitting and keeping silent you spoil the whole impression of yourself. Distract her attention and continue the date. One battle is lost, but the war is sure to be won by you!

Another important thing you should mind: a woman will never sleep with a man, whom she doesn’t respect. Gain her respect, show yourself not only as a good interlocutor, but also as a good listener, interesting personality and an experienced seducer! Mind that Art of seduction and cross the bridge when you come to it!

Don’t be down in the mouth, if she, after you have seen her home, doesn’t invite you in. It doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like you. Perhaps she wants to take her time and doesn’t want to hurry or simply has monthlies. Do not insist, thank her for the great time you had and ask if you can see her again. She can hardly refuse…