Is virginity a problem???

What to do if your girlfriend turns out to be a virgin? Sure thing, you are shocked, but at the same time proud, that you may become her first man. But virginity is to some extend a problem, because the longer she doesn’t give up, the more painful the process is likely to be. The specialists claim, that the most appropriate age for first sex is from 18 till 20. But if it already so happened, you have to take things under your control and try to change the situation. Unless she knows what she misses, she won’t agree to this. Besides, she must rely upon you and believe you, otherwise she won’t consider you to be that special one, she has been waiting for.

Don’t insist on having sex – in the long run she has to make her own decision and to dare to do it at last! It’s normal she will be nervous and frightened, cause doesn’t know what awaits her, and her friends’ tips won’t be of good avail here.

Being an expert in the matter (so far) you have to be very tender, caring, but at the same time determined. Do not hurry up, move slowly, but confidently, ask her how she feels. The first sex leaves an unforgettable impression on women and to some extend form her attitude to sex, so be careful and do not let things go out of your control.

She must be sure that there is not danger of pregnancy. Discuss the choice of contraceptives before and choose one that suits you perfectly. If she is confident of safe sex, she is likely to relax better.

Make foreplay longer, it will allow her to relax and really want you. Kiss her, examine her body, see what she likes and what she doesn’t. If she is ashamed of her body, convince her that she is as beautiful as never before.

Be especially careful at the beginning of penetrating – in this stage she is likely to feel a minor amount of pain and later when you come to virginal membrane itself. When these two barriers are overcome, you both can sigh with relief.

Besides, you should be ready to face her refusal at the responsible moment. She seemed to want it, but got frightened and felt she was not ready. If it happens, don’t insist and show that you understand her and are ready to wait. Another variant – make her believe that she was right when decided to give up; she may need your approval and support. But do it carefully and gently – otherwise you’ll spoil everything!

Your main task is to prove that sex, so mush discussed, is really a pleasant thing and she won’t lose, but gain another important aspect of her life!

Your gifts and her thoughts about them…

The coming season of holidays will require from you a number of presents for your girl-friend. For me personally it is always a difficult job. To choose a good present, to meet her demands and make her happy is far from an easy task. Besides, women are likely to interpret the presents in their own way and very often not alone, but with the help of their mother, best friend, colleagues at work etc. As you see, a problem rises here – how not to pull a boner. But there is always a way out, consider the following information and make your choice!

Perfumes.
In order your girlfriend to like the gift, you should know her and her taste perfectly well, otherwise you are really risking. If you think that buying perfumes is an easy task, you are mistaken, ‘cause your better half is unlikely to wear a scent she dislikes only because it was your gift. So if you are not sure of her tastes, don’t buy perfumes.

Jewelry.
Jewelry is rather expensive gift and if you choose it as your present you hint that you love her and that these relations are really very important for you. Do not hurry up to present her with jewelry; otherwise you may face two problems: she may be scared, if is not sure of her own feelings or you may be accused of trying to buy her attention.

Gargets.
Life in the 21st century is next to impossible without different gargets and small devices. They are also rather expensive and by choosing such a present you show your care and love, you prove that you are eager to make her life easier and more convenient. She will be glad to get iPod or a new handy as a present. So don’t save money on your close people!

Trips.
Another zero-risk gift is suggesting of spending time together. Depending on the sum you are ready to spend it may be an exotic trip or just a weekend in a cottage – only you and she. Any woman will appreciate such a gift, because you show that it is of vital importance for you to spend more time with her. Besides, it is the best way out, if you are not sure which material present will meet her demands.

Food and drink.
Frankly speaking these are not gifts at all! A bar of chocolate will be all right if you want to do something pleasant for her, but it is not that size for a present! A bottle of wine and chocolate are too general and do not express either your attitude towards her or your real feelings.

Lingerie.
This is the most intimate present from all described above. And presenting your girlfriend with lingerie has several pitfalls. If she is rather emancipated and doesn’t blush speaking about sex, she is sure to like your gift (if you know her taste, of course), in this case you may experiment and even ask her to try the gift on on the spur of the moment! But if she is too conservative your attempts to make her happy will fall flat. She may even get offended for your interference into her too private life.

Sure thing, these are not all possible ideas for the gifts. It’s up to you to decide what is likely and what is unlikely to make her happy and make at the same time feel at ease. If you know the person well enough, you can go ahead with some extraordinary crazy gift ideas, if not – try not to offend anybody’s feelings. A bit of fantasy and desire to surprise her will do their business – she will be happy!

What is it that women want from men?

Women all over the world are fighting with men for their own rights, personal freedom and independence. This movement is known as feminism. At the same time, I’m inclined to think, that women will be women and despite all their success in career, studies etc. they need to be treated like women and are never against chivalry.

Perhaps, we’ll never understand the reasons for getting offended when we didn’t kiss her and she expected us to do it. For us it is a trifle, for her – personal tragedy. Learn how to avoid such ambivalence in relations.

Don’t forget to phone her back!
Women need much attention. It doesn’t mean that you have to call her 100 times a day and say that you miss her, want her, need her… It is enough to call her back saying a couple of tender words you are sure to find for your sweetheart. One or two sentences will be enough to show her that you do care and that you are not indifferent to her.

Kiss her without reasons!
This is what I meant at the beginning. Kiss her with no reasons to show that you want her, that you are interested in sex only with her. If at the same time you hold her hand, you’ll make her extremely happy and eager to do something pleasant for you.

Dress for her!
If you dress up for her, she is sure not only to notice it, but moreover she is sure to appreciate it. Women like sharp-dressed men and only these men are sure to arouse interest and sex appeal in women. If you don’t want to lose your girl-friend’s affection, wear a nice shirt and dress pants – the result and effects won’t make you wait long.

Dance with her!
For a woman a dance with a beloved person will always contain some romance and intimacy, something that makes her feel special and always desired. Don’t be stubborn and agree to go out with her, ask her for a dance, embrace her, make each moment of your relations unforgettable. Try it and you’ll see that you like it too!

Remember all birthdays and anniversaries!
Nothing can get her monkey up more than your forgetting some important (for her) dates. Besides, if you want to keep your privacy and intimacy as long as possible, try to remember even insignificant dates: when you first kissed her, when you said you loved her for the first time, where you spent your first vacation together, what you noticed about her the first time you met… These trifles-details will provide your relations with intimacy and trust – she will be always ready to depend on you.

Visit her family!
Nothing will happen to you if you visit her parents from time to time. It will be pleasant for both sides: she will adore you for paying attention to her family, her parents won’t complain of her rare visits – you will cover your weak points (if you behave in a right way and don’t overreact).

If you ask me, “What is it that women want from men”, I’ll say that small things do matter. If you neglect those details that are of vital importance for her, you neglect all the relations. And when only she feels neglected, lots of other problems will show their real faces. Let the sleeping lie, take this information as food for thought and enjoy your being together!!!

Some women you are never to date with

There are some women you should never touch with a bargepole. It’s not because they are bad, good or something else. That springs from the fact that they play their own role in your life and it is desirable that you should not forget about it, if you want to save your reputation, your friends and your money.

Your best friend’s sister
Many people are convinced, that friendship between a man and a woman cannot exist. If you are a lucky chap and have a female friend, don’t be stupid and never date with her sister. Otherwise you are likely to lose both: your sweetheart and your best friend. A friend is a friend, bit as soon as it touches upon her family she will be ready to forget about your friendship when only you offend her sister.

Your secretary
Relations at work almost always result in an abject failure. Everybody pretends to know nothing, gossiping behind your back. You cannot concentrate on your work because of her, the failure comes after failure and in the end you have neither lover nor career. Mind it before jumping into your secretary’s bed (or before having sex in the janitor’s closet).

Your ex-girlfriend
Whenever you feel lonely and seem to want your ex-girlfriend, think twice and only then jump into the relationships. Remember what caused your break, the same is sure to happen again sooner or later. Do not let memories win. There were sure lots of pleasant moments and she is sure to be great, sexy and very attractive, but she IS in the list!

Your friend’s ex
Even if they are no longer together, even if they are good friends, even if he says, “I don’t care”, it is still taboo. If you start dating with your friend’s ex, you may say good-bye to your friendship. Soon everybody will know what kind of friend you are and you’ll lose your reputation. As well as in case with your best female friend’s sister, keep your eyes peeled!

The stripper
If for you dating and relationships mean more than mere sex, strippers are also in your black list! Jealousy, constant quarrels and ding-dongs will spoil and poison these relations very quickly. Nothing good will come out of it!

These are those women you should never date unless you like troubles. Mind it when you make a pass at somebody from the list!